Florida weather makes it hard to believe its holiday time

how can you take the holidays serious when its like 80 degrees outside… yet I see pictures and videos of up north weather and its so hard to imagine that its so cold yet here its  still ok to go swimming.. wtf…

so thanksgiving this year.. I did something completely outside the box… I accepted an invite from a facebook friend… that has been on my facebook for the past two years.. we come from the same town…he is probably about five to six years older than me.. we have never met… but know a lot of the same people kind of deal… and he is always posting up lots of pictures of food etc etc..to which im constantly liking  all the pics.. etc etc…

so I get the invite.. and think to myself… last year was a disgrace.. I made a turkey got up at 5am to start it.. and made a bunch of food.. only to spend the day in the house by myself.. and at the time my oldest daughter was living with me and had three of her kids with her as well.. but son in law had come to get her and take her with him and the rest of the kids to his moms house for thanksgiving ( we are still talking about last year not this year ) lol

so remembering that event.. and how I cooked and stayed in the house all day  and put all of it away that evening after no one came, I figured  hell yeah  step outside your box  and do something different..

and I was glad I did… what a great day it was.. food galore  and none of it I had to cook or clean up after.. woohoo.. even got a plate to take home after..

think my oldest daughter and son in law was confused when I didn’t get up that morning and start cooking… lol

the facebook friend that invited me.. definitely made it known  that he wanted to go out again  and that he is ready to settle down… but so not my type.. and if the chemistry isn’t there.. it  just isn’t  going to happen…   but we have spoken thru text… very nice person…

on a brighter note  my oldest daughter and son in law have moved out of my apartment.. yesssssss

don’t understand why they told me they got a place that had two bedrooms.. when clearly I visited  them  and saw that it was one bedroom…  don’t know how that’s going to work if they are trying to get their seven kids back with them…  ( smh )

the day they were leaving my place.. I had already gone thru my kitchen  and taken out extra pans and dishes  that I gave them to take…

I came home on the tail end of their last trip of taking their things  out  and “inspecting” my place to see what else might have been taken that didn’t belong to them…

yeah as expected I found that a few things had disappeared.. initially I was pissed… but in my head realized that if they had just asked for these things.. I probably would have said  sure.. no problem.. but I was still pissed.. because I have had them in my home taking care of them for the past year and a half.. and  to think they felt entitled to take something they wanted.. yeah it pisses me off..

but I got over it… they have much bigger issues to face on their life road of travel…

im so at peace with the new found quietness in my home..so I have begun to clean…

the next step is to get rid of the couch my son in law and sometimes daughter used to sleep on for the past six , seven months… hes  really large  so the springs seemed to have given way on one part of it..not to mention the year my daughter lived there prior  and changed diapers etc on it.. yes the covers have been removed and washed.. but the actual cushions.. no… time for that to go as well….

maybe I need to stay without a couch in the living room so it deters anyone from getting ideas of staying with me..lol….

speaking of which.. youngest daughter has been having some issues in her world… I told her she could come stay with me.. she has had the roughest of times.. got turned down for her disability  but she is going to appeal…

clearly her seizures keep her from being employed.. she get s fired  after not coming to work from a seizure episode… but once she has a seizure.. and it could happen  as she gets up in the morning getting ready for work.. seizures  out  and then goes into a migraine headache.. and cant function until the next day  literally ( I have seen it happen ).. employers  don’t understand this process and nor should they actually.. they want dependability  and even though its not her fault… its  her downfall…

so with that ,, she has been arguing with her boyfriend.. financial stress and burdens will make that happen to the best of people…

so with that.. I have offered to have her come stay with me.. and get on her feet as best that she can…

I think she is back in good graces with her boyfriend.. because I haven’t heard from her in a few days… so its obvious  she doesn’t need me right now..but who knows.. at least I have given her the option….

so the holidays are here… bahhh humbug… no plans.. no traveling.. for sure.. not even an option due to financial responsibilities called life..lol..

office get together this Friday evening.. a nice place for dinner… don’t get to go out hardly ever so im excited.. more excited I don’t have to pay or tip.. lol… 

I think the holiday focus will be more geared towards the kids and excitement for them…

my mom is still at odds with my sister.. and I hope they stop their feud sooner than later..

my mom is getting worse as she gets older.. more confrontational.. victim mentality…

my youngest daughter talks to my mom a lot by phone… probably the only one left in the family that will listen to my mom.. she alienates everyone lately…

ever since my grandmother passed away  the family fell apart.. but im sure that is the case for a lot of families… I hear that a lot… the strongest part of the family support system.. once its gone.. it  pretty much dissolves so to speak….after that…

one day at a time…

 

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