Here it is…yet another woman griping (bitching, complaining, over reacting, whatever you want to call it) about how she feels like she does everything around the house with very little help from her boyfriend.
I work a full time job. Yes, I sit on my ass all day as he likes to put it while he is out on his feet working long hours. So, we both work. We both have two days off a week. I get the whole weekend off and he gets one weekend day and one week day.
Yet, I feel like I take care of 98% of the work around the house. I rarely ask him to do anything and when I do, I can expect a week to go by before I find myself doing it. Whenever I am talking to him about things that need to be done around the house I always say “I” have to do the laundry or “I” have to clean the bathroom. I never say “we” anymore. Because it isn’t true. I even correct myself if I say “we”.
He works long hours a lot of the times and that is his excuse I get when I ask him to help or when I comment that I do most of the work. But is it fair for me to get 100 % of the house work because he works longer hours than I do? If I were a stay at home girlfriend, no problem! I would do everything….like I already do, just without complaint. But I work too. I spend my evenings and most of my weekends cleaning, doing the odds and ends, doing laundry, picking up his kids, helping them with homework, making sure they do their chores, cooking dinner, etc. Some Mondays and Tuesdays I don’t even get to rest until they go to bed.
What would it take to get him to help? Do I need to make him a chore chart as well? It’s sounds very belittling, but what is it going to take?
Saturday, I slept in. I guess I needed it. I was the last one awake and one of the first things said to me was “what’s for breakfast?”. This set my mood for the day which has led me up to this rant today. Also on Saturday, I have been asking my bf to hang shelves in the living room and asked that he take care of them that day. Guess who ended up hanging them? This girl. His response “you did a good job hanging the selves”. Well, I already KNOW that! What I wanted to hear was “sorry, I know you have been waiting on me to hang them”. I also buried the mole deferrer in the yard like I have been waiting on him to do.
I’ve been waiting two weeks for him to look at the broken vacuum. I have mentioned buying a new vacuum in hopes he will fix the damn broken one, but no. I don’t want to have to buy a new one (a CHEAP one) when the $300 one we have could possibly be fixed. I guess I will put that on my to do list too.
I don’t want to split the household work 50/50. I would be happy with 70/30. I don’t expect him to dust and vacuum, but it would be so helpful if he helped me to keep things picked up and put away. It would make my 70% so much easier if I didn’t have to spend so much time straightening everything up before I can get down to the deep cleaning.
Rant is over…for now.