My friend

Nobody may even read this, or care. But my friend has been drinking a lot lately, we are both in high school and she says it helps with anxiety. Even though she got along just fine before alcohol. I told her it upsets me, also I hate to see my best friend like that. My father is an alcoholic and he was so close to dying because of drinking and now it’s affecting him for the rest of his life. I want to lead her down the right path, but I don’t want to sound like I’m trying to force her. I don’t want to sound like I’m trying to control her life. I hate that I’m even having to do this. The way she’s acting lately is like the girls I used to ALWAYS stay away from. She isn’t acting like somebody I would ever want to hang out with. It’s not just the drinking she’s also starting to vape. (I know many people have different opinions on vape. I just believe it’s a gateway to many other drugs/tobacco items.) I don’t know what to do. I really just want her to go back to normal. 

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  1. Hey MBE16,
    I don’t know if you’re looking for advice on here, or just a void in space to vent your thoughts into. So you can totally disregard this, because I definitely can’t claim to know how you feel, especially your history with your dad. But I also have a friend who’s had trouble with alcohol abuse. She’d been in rehab for it before, at least twice that I was aware of. And when I realized what was happening, I covered for her. She’s my friend, and I didn’t want her to be in trouble. I didn’t want her to be suspended from work, or for people to look at her and only see the alcohol. I made excuses, or I just straight up denied things that were happening. I thought that somehow she’d get it together on her own, with my help. But it just kept getting worse. Because the only person that could force her to change, was her. But she had to want it first. And I finally had to tell her that if she was going to keep behaving that way, that I had to take a step back. That I always wanted to be her friend, and that I’d be waiting for her when she was sober again. I won’t say that that immediately snapped her out of it or anything. She had to sort through things on her own. But she is getting help now, and I’m hopeful that she’ll find herself again. And me when she’s ready.
    I hope your friend finds herself again too. But that you’re strong enough to walk away if you need to.

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