Cobbler, Marital bickering, and going to bed angry

So this is my very first journal entry, and inhale no clue why I’m even doing this, other than the desperate need to vent my feelings in an anonymous setting. My husband and I went to dinner tonight at his parents house for his dad’s birthday. We were having a perfectly lovely evening when my is and asked me to go and get his dessert, and I told him to go and get it himself. So of course he’s mad at me now. He says I embarrased him. I asked him why he would say something like that to hurt me, we are family so why would he get embarrased but he doesn’t see it that way, i really don’t know what to do with him when he’s like that over something so stupid, I think I just want a fairytale marriage and I’m never gonna have it and I have to accept that and find a way to keep on keepin on as they say. So now he’s in bed mad and I’m trying to decide whether to go too our beds or sleep on the couch, and to think we used to say we would never go to bed angry. Marriage vows are an utter joke. 

2 thoughts on “Cobbler, Marital bickering, and going to bed angry”

  1. I’m so glad you used this blog to vent. Tomorrow you will feel better — or the next day. Don’t be afraid to do a small kindness for your husband, especially around his family. He really was embarrassed. A woman can demand “equality” or she can be extra kind and loving and win her husband’s heart for life. My husband says I am “sweet” and he is crazy in love with me (and I am with him) after 45 years of marriage. Your determination never to go to bed angry is a good one, based on a scripture “Let not the sun go down on your anger.” Mend this little tiff tomorrow and let it go. You didn’t ask for advice, so I hope you don’t mind my offering it. So many good marriages trip up over tiny things. God bless you and your hubby and your marriage. Hope you will blog some more. It’s a great release.

  2. Thank you for your advice!! I do appreciate outside thoughts, I think it’s why I started this journal lol, man it’s hard though! We’ve been married almost 4 years now and I love him more than anything but sometimes he makes me feel like I’m doing nothing right lol but I know it’s probably just hurt feelings telling me that, it was good to vent though and to get some constructive advise from strangers! lol it’s hard to talk to family or friends about marital issues because I never want them to think badly of my husband or to think we are unhappy, so thank you 🙂

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