INFP & ESTJ in Relationship

Have you heard about Myers-Briggs’ personalities? Me and bf took the test. Mine is Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving, he’s an Extroverted Sensing Thinking Judging.
We are totally opposites yet we are a couple. 🙂

Differences are able to strengthen your relation. I will share what I read about the joys between INFP & ESTJ : 

  • Extroverts appreciate the calm and steady demeanor of the Introvert, while Introverts enjoy the hearty and bubbly Extrovert. Extrovert enjoys that there is an active listening ear in the Introvert. Introvert enjoys that the Extrovert takes social leadership in most occasions. -> This is TRUE, I like my bf takes the lead. 🙂 
  • Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive. Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living. -> I am a dreamer, not well-organized. My bf helps me to stay on the ground and I found him very cute with his ‘detail’ thingy. Sometimes can be irritating but I am learning to be better.
  • Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler’s compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives. -> I can start to use my brain, not only following my heart. Now we are getting more synchronized, haha.
  • Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers. Perceivers help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything – something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of. -> He also changed. Now he’s more more more relax! I like him more than before. :p

Nothing is perfect. So also we shared struggles. But, surprisingly until today our bonds are getting stronger. We are growing together. Learn how to handle anger, to solve problems, to control jealousy, to love each other in a mature way. 

We do have past stories, of course. I don’t like his, and vice versa. But then I think, no matter how bad our experiences were, they have made us to be a better person now. I won’t be like what I am today, with all these thoughts if I did not pass the broken-hearted thingy and all those love games. ^^ And so does he. We have agreed to wave the past. Exes are exes. They will never be friends, anyway. 

I ever said that our meeting is a bit like fate. Suddenly we had a chance to meet for the second time after more than 2 years! By meeting this guy, I am getting a thing called HOPE that real love might still exist. 

Je t’aime, D! :*

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