June 1, 2016 – Step by Step

Step by Step
Wednesday, June 1, 2016

“The spiritual life is not theory. We have to live it. Unless one’s family expresses a desire to live upon spiritual principles, we think we ought not to urge them. We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual matters. They will change in time. Our behavior will convince them more than our words.” – Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, Ch 6, p 83.

Today, if called on to 12th-Step a prospect, I will not hammer the spiritual aspect of recovery if the topic seems to push away rather than draw in the prospect. Should the prospect who is weary of spirituality subsequently embrace the program and find sobriety, the words “(Spiritual awareness) will change in time” will ring true. Paraphrasing the saying that I was born of the Spirit but was taught religion, let me understand that others, like me, also may tie the two together – religion and spirituality – but that the program will lead them to their own understanding of a higher power. Today, if spirituality cannot be discussed with a potential member, let my actions speak louder than my words. And our common journey continues. Step by step. – Chris M., 2016

2 thoughts on “June 1, 2016 – Step by Step”

  1. Christopher, you are very wise and kind not to push prospects away with religion. Some people are just not ready. God has his own timing. He will make Himself known. Can I ask you to pray for a young man who is fighting heroin addiction? He was clean for a year and then got with some bad friends and used it. Now he’s in withdrawal. He’s about 19 years old, named Andrew. Thanks, Chris. btw, he is a Christian. We pray together.

  2. THANK YOU! I absolutely will NEVER suggest ANYONE get “religious” to recovery, because religion hasn’t done a great job fixing the world, has it? Agnostic or atheist, we take our recovery WHERE we find it and NO ONE can tell us it isn’t right if it’s working. And, yes, my prayer IS with Andrew. Sounds to me as if Andrew needs to understand and accept that, when addiction threatens our very lives, we sometimes have to leave behind the people who are not healthy for us in our new lives in recovery – and it DOES become a new life from the one we lived as addicts. I pray so much for him: heartbreaking that someone so young is on a path that, I learned myself, CAN kill us.

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