The path to inner peace is not simple or short. You cannot just wake up one day and decide you will have inner peace from that point forward. It is a journey, a journey that needs to be appreciated every step of the way.
You need to be willing to let go and accept your full spectrum of emotions. You have to be ready to step outside the box you have allowed yourself to be put into and start from scratch. Get to know yourself all over again and be willing to make mistakes. Most importantly you need to realize that only YOU have control over your emotional responses and reactions and they can be changed for the better.
Once you become aware of ways you can improve how you live your life, you can begin true transformations. These transformations are paradigm shifts or evolutions of the mind, spirit and soul.
Offloading Your Emotional Baggage
Everyone has a certain amount of emotional baggage that they carry with them everywhere, and if you’re anything like me, it’s a pretty heavy bag. The idea of finding inner peace is to offload this baggage so you can feel light, healthy, vibrant, free and maybe even enlightened one day.
What is emotional baggage?
It comes in many forms, some examples being shame for past deeds, judgments towards others, being victimized, being abused, guilt for past mistakes, distorted beliefs about yourself and others, insecurities and body image problems.
The secret to clearing your issues is to take your ship out of harbor and interact with others. This is a vital part about learning about yourself. Remember this: Anything you see in others, you have in yourself also and any judgment you make towards another is really a reflection of yourself. This applies to both good and bad things you recognize.
An example could be you reacting in anger towards someone who is crying, having no compassion for their situation. It could be you are angry with yourself when you allow yourself to get sad. When you refuse to accept something in yourself, you will not accept it in others.
Start looking at the way you react to people and situations. This is a process of learning and being willing to quickly admit to yourself and others when you are wrong. This is a sure way to learn about yourself and others very quickly.
Once you open yourself up to the truth, there will be no going back.
There is more good news, you can also own your admirations. This means all the things you admire or maybe are even jealous in others, you have in yourself also.//
Letting Go of Control
You will have to let go of control to ever find inner peace. This is control you have over anyone in your life and control over life itself. You cannot give anything or anyone power or control over your feelings. When you try to control someone, ultimately they are controlling you. If you feel you need to monitor someone’s every move, or have them be with you all of the time, you are really restricting yourself to the same. You have to develop trust and let go of fear.
If you feel scared, accept it for what it is, a harmless yet uncomfortable emotion. No big deal, and once you’ve overcome it a few times, it becomes easy. Never say “you make me feel so angry/sad/frustrated!” because you are choosing to feel those things and what someone else does with their life should not have an impact on you. It is about developing emotional intelligence and allowing people to live their life without being responsible for your reactions.
Trust those who say they love you and trust every interaction you have. Don’t try to read into things, there’s no point. What other people think is none of your business and you will never be guaranteed to work it out, so just let it go. This won’t happen in a day but keep working on yourself. Any time you catch yourself wondering what someone says or thinks about you when you’re not around, just make it a point to change your mind to something else. If you keep doing it, you will re-train your mind, and before you know it, you will be free from the opinions of others.
For some reason we fear has been applied to so many situations in our time. Fear is actually an adrenaline response to a situation we instinctually feel the need to flee from. Anxiety, stress, and worry are not fear. You may be worried about going out in crowds, you may be anxious about the promotion interview, but you are not afraid. Acknowledge these emotions when they arise, let them know they are justified, then continue with your plans.
(finishing this later today)