Hello. Last night was a very.. interesting night. This is the very first time when my fiancé put his hands on me. Well, it’s happened twice before but last night would have to be the worst. Now I have never been through such a thing, but I am putting research into this.
The first time we had a little argument and he grabbed me and dragged me over the bed frame, which hurt my back. He apologised and I forgave him. Second time we had another little argument dealing with our new kitten, and he dragged me off the sofa and locked me into the second bedroom until I was calm. But that one was kind of my fault because I did raise my voice a couple of times. And this time he was just angry. Let me get into detail.
We came back from a movie night and decided to do a little gaming. He usually does get mad over the game but he was really upset during each game we played. I kept telling him to calm down and to just stop talking like that because it was really agitating me. So I told him that I’m getting off and laying down. He played for a couple of more minutes and turned it off and came into the room. He pulled the covers off of me and I asked why did you do that? He didn’t say anything so I just really didn’t want to start anything right now because it was late and I was tired.
So I was quiet and trying to sleep and he got up and was going to sleep on the couch. I got up, turned the bedroom light on and asked “Why are you sleeping on the couch? I cant sleep alone, just come lay down”. he said no because I was giving him attitude and to turn the light off. He was threatening me saying that he won’t sleep with me for a month if I didn’t turn the light off, and to fly back home because I was wasting his money by having the light on..?
That went on for a couple of minutes and he said some hurtful things so I told him that I’m going to message my family to buy a plane ticket and take me home. He sais he didn’t care but then I heard him get up, and he pushed me and tried to take my phone and yelled “turn the f*cking light off!”
As he went back to the couch he turned the light off and unplugged the internet, and I was a little freaked out and scared. But I got up and went to turn the wifi back on, crying as I did it. He got up and said “I’m not going to let you use all my data either” and picked me up and threw me on the couch which led to hitting my head.
When he moved away a little I grabbed his phone and tried running to the bathroom but he followed me and pushed the door open. I told him to stop and to just leave me a lone but he grabbed my face and held my mouth closed pretty manly. As he was doing this he moved me to the bedroom and let go. I said give me my phone or I’ll scream, he didn’t like that answer so he covered my mouth again and held me forcibly to the bed and said so angrily, “listen to me very closely, you are not going to wake anyone up, there were cops here and that’s not going to happen again.”
Now. This was a very scary experience for me because I have never been through something like this. He has had a rough past and he was abused in his last relationship, so I don’t know what to do really.
Everything calmed down later and he told me that he loves me and that I’m his angel. That he would never hurt me. I asked if something like this may happen again and he said yes. I asked if it would get worse to where he would actually hit me, and he said no, Ill never hurt you.
I love him, I really do. I’m not really scared for my life anymore. He is a great guy, he’s just so different whenever he is angry. I just now know not to push his buttons or anything. I’ll make sure that he blows off his steam easily somehow without both of us getting hurt. I prayed about this and I’m calm.