I decided to start writing this, as I have found it difficult to find help and advice on this subject. Though I don’t know what I am talking about, at the moment, I am hoping that these little diary entries will, in time, help anyone who is in the same position. This is my first blog, so it won’t hold much help. But maybe, whoever reads this in the future, will have something to relate to.
My partner has Autism. This is how I can start it off.
We’ve not been together long. Just over two months we’ve been official, and about three months we have been seeing each other.
Its been trying times. Sometimes so much fun – we have a great laugh together. But when those times come that he has his ‘breakdowns’ or just feels he can’t cope. They’re the times that are hard.
He’s one of the most trustworthy, loyal guys I have ever met. But he can be difficult to handle sometimes. Times when he says something about someone in public too loud. It’s a bit embarrassing. I try to calmly explain to him that it can hurt people’s feelings, but he still won’t understand that.
What bugs me the most about that, is how people can be. A lot of people don’t understand Autism. To be honest, I was one of those people before I met him. Though half of my family have worked in care homes, supported living and psychiatric wards, I didn’t spend a lot of time with people who had learning difficulties myself. I wasn’t blind to it, but I wasn’t savvy either.
Being with him is making things a bit easier to understand.
This isn’t a diary for me to moan about him. Absolutely not. I want to write down my experiences and how I am learning to work with him. And how he is getting on as well.
I care for him so much, and want to do everything I can to look after him. It’s also nice to feel needed for once.
There is hardly anything around that can help me with this. Everything I read is for parents or siblings or children that are related to someone with Autism. Not much is for people who have romantic relationships. I know I’m not alone, but I feel it.
– S x