I wish he would leave

For the last 2 days my husband was off. On the first day I don’t remember much about what he was doing. I got home later than normal with the kids and after feeding and showering them, and the usual clean up, I was so tired I fell asleep on the couch. They woke me up at bedtime where I tucked my kids in their beds and then fell asleep in mine. I didn’t talk much with my husband that day. Maybe that’s what set him off. Yesterday he was in a foul mood all day. I know there are problems going on at work and he’s been working extra hours as they don’t have enough staff to cover all the work. He came home and then stayed in our room all evening. He had minimal contact with me and the kids. I’d ask him something and would get single word replies (if any). As normal I took the dog for a walk, cooked and cleaned up, and again bathed and put the kids to bed. Today he was the same. Only today he was more angry than normal. I asked him when he came home what’s going on at work but he was very vague. He spoke to our mutual friend who also works with him for over half an hour. From what I got things are bad. But its no excuse and he has a history of acting like this.  First he snapped at our 5 year old daughter and then he started on me again. Calling me every name he could think of,  how I’m mental and crazy and drive him crazy. He accused me again of being a bad mum. I’m not and I know I’m not. I do everything on my own for my kids.  He goes to work and comes home and that’s it. I know when he’s like this it’s cause he’s trying to find an excuse to lash put and attack me. He even treated to send me to the hospital this time. I want a divorce. I even downloaded the forms but I am clueless on how to apply. I can’t afford a lawyer. I’m desperate. In Cyprus they don’t have places women like me can go to. The police only do something if he’ll  really do some damage and he always knows what to do to not leave any marks on me. I’ve tried talking to smartens but without a lawyer I’m stuck. My family aren’t interested in me to help me. I feel so alone. I’m trying to keep it together for my kids. I wish he would leave but he’s too gutless to do so. 

3 thoughts on “I wish he would leave”

  1. You dont need a lawyer you need an attourney. I would go to the city hall in your city and provide them with the papers. most clerks at the desk have experiance with this matter. at least go their out of the house and ask. many times the city will have legal help as well. most will provide free assistance. others will ask for a small fee after its all said and done. they can also help with the seperation battle and make sure your husband dont come after you.

  2. I don’t qualify for legal aid. I wish I did otherwise I would have filed ages ago. My mother house is half on my name (she did that after my parents divorced) although I have no benefit at all from that house. And if I ever do it will be only after my mother dies.
    In Cyprus we don’t have city hall. There is the court house where they just tell you to hire a lawyer and then there’s the town hall that have nothing at all to do with legal stuff. I feel like I’m grasping at straws.

  3. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know its different everywhere and every situation is different. I’ve never been married so I’m afraid I can’t offer much in the way of advice, but I did want to let you know I was listening 🙂

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