So today was an eye opening experience. I don’t know if anyone else has ever felt this way but after not dating for over 7 years, getting back “out there” is just kinda one of those things that is not going so well for me. Like the dates go well we get along and all but for whatever reason I’m just not feeling it. Like its weird I can’t seem to date anymore… Kinda like WTF?! I know I don’t wanna be alone forever yet at the same time I don’t know if I really wanna be with someone…. Does that make sense?
Tonight I had a date with an awesome guy, everything was great we had fun, got to know each other a little bit but now it’s just kinda one of those things I guess… I honestly don’t know, I mean how is it I can help people with their dating lives but yet when it comes to mine it’s like a bomb just went off and I’m cleaning up piece by piece… I mean when did dating get so difficult? I mean seriously, like dating should be easy, just be you and everything will work out or it won’t but at least you won’t be changing to please anyone. Most people don’t seem to get that. Everyone seems to think that we’ve got to pretend that we are a certain way and yet when we do that, we compromise who we are.
I don’t know about anyone else but I’m not going to compromise who I am as a person just to “fit” what someone wants me to be. Guess what if you don’t like me for me then it’s never going to work out because I’m not going to pretend like I’m okay with changing the very essence of who I am as a person. Because I’m not.
Gentleman, If you really want a relationship to last, you have to put the effort in. You have to surprise her, keep her guessing but only in the good way. Be honest, do the little things such as plan a surprise date, buy flowers (just because), go for a drive, play video games, it doesn’t matter what you do as long you do it TOGETHER.
Ladies, If you want a man to stick around, then support him, have his back, surprise him with little things. Dress up in something sexy, go out of your way to make him feel powerful, loved, wanted, supported. Guys need attention just as much as ladies. Always be honest with him. Love, respect, and support go hand and hand.