First of all I’m going to talk a bit about why I self harmed. I self harmed to transform for lack of a better word emotional pain that I didn’t understand into physical pain I could understand.
I managed to stop self harming with the help of a friend who self harmed and stopped. But it was not easy for me. I went from cutting myself to dripping hot wax on my arm. It didn’t burn me but it released the chemicals I needed to feel better. I eventually stopped that as well. The urges still hit but I resist them in a very similar way I resist the urge to smoke. Journal about them, Talk to friends and do my best to keep my mind occupied in a positive manor. If it’s to strong often pinching myself will take the edge off the urge. Occasionally my stress and therefor my urges are really bad then I use hot wax and that helps without any damage. I am working up to where I don’t even need that.