What would you do if your child comes home after spending a week with their dad and tells you that his girlfriend hit her? Every time she goes with her dad I send her on her way with blessings so that God watches over her and protects her against any wrongdoing. This has been something that I have been battling for some time. My daughter is 9 years old now. She tells me everything. We have a great relationship. And any time that she is with her dad and his girlfriend and something happens, she tells me about it. This could be something good and something bad. Usually anything worth telling me isn’t good though. Most times she tells me that they talk to her about me. Or that his girlfriend is always yelling at her and sending her to her room. Her dad doesn’t do anything about it. Well, January 2nd when I picked her up and asked how her week was, things got a bit more serious. You see, this is the first time she has ever told me that this woman has put her hands on her. She tells me that as they were waiting for the car to be cleaned, they sat in the waiting area. My daughter was licking an envelope and the girlfriend, we will call her Lucy, told her not to lick the envelope. My daughter didn’t stop, so Lucy proceeded to spank her leg, grab her by the arm, sit her on her lap and grab her face to make my daughter look at her. I was shocked. The next day, I called the department of children and families and reported it, and after talks with my attorney, he suggested I file an injunction against her. So that is what I did. I went to the courthouse and filed an injunction. I was honestly not expecting for it to be granted, but I did it to prove a point. I will not just sit on my hands and allow anyone to put their hands on my children. As I expected, it was not granted. That night, I talked to my daughter. I explained to her what I did. She said she wished they would have granted it as she doesn’t want to be around her anymore. I also called Lucy. She denied touching my daughter. My daughter also mentioned that when she hit her, my daughter told her that she is not allowed to hit her, and Lucy responded with “I will do whatever I have to do in order for you to respect me.”
Let’s fast forward to 2 days later… We were sitting on the couch and my daughter says to me “why can’t daddy do what you did? He should be doing it and protecting me.”
Her comment makes me feel like I am doing something right. If nothing else, I am raising one smart girl. Unlike them, I don’t need to speak ill about them. They show their true colors themselves. Going forward, I am documenting every little thing that she tells me. And if Lucy ever hits her again, I will march right back down to the courthouse and file another injunction. I will do whatever it takes to protect my child. If her dad won’t, she knows that I will.