For the past 10 years my sister has been on and off with the same guy. They have 5 kids together (one of those were only concieved to overshadow my pregnancy- her words not mine) and there has been more drama then i have time to write about. In those 10 years he has been in and out of jail and in and out of her life. He has beaten her, robbed her, abused her, abused my mum, abused my dad, stolen and beaten my extended family, threatened the kids, done all this IN FRONT of his kids. We have called the police on him countless times and she just never seems to get it through her head that he is bad news. The last time drama went down i had my baby in the house that he came to – high of his face and going psycho screaming at my mum, sister (my other sister), me. All while his girlfriend (my sister) was at her house safe and sound. We called the police once and again and from that moment i decided i no longer want to be part of her stupid decisions. He got sent to jail and she convinced us she was done with him as her bruises were obvious and this time he held a knife to her. If it wasn’t for her daughter getting the phone for her to call the police who knows what he would of done with the knife. So she is ‘done’ with him and we were happy about that. THEN he calls her from jail apologising and the cycle starts again. He got out 3 months ago and since then I haven’t heard a word from her. She posted a lovely photo on facebook of their engagement without telling my mum, she made a status about how she doesn’t need us in her life, we got no invitation to her daughters 1st birthday but she calls my mum every second day asking for money and favours. So by this point i am done with her. She tried calling me last week and again today asking to see my daughter. My partner was furious and he wants her to have nothing to do with my daughter which i completely understand But my guilt kicks in… I don’t want my daughter having people come in and out of her life when it suits them and i don’t want her to know anything that this horrible person has done to his family, i don’t want her witnessing it if my sister is around and he gets made and decides to follow her. I feel like it is too risky having her near my daughter but i feel guilty stopping her from seeing her niece. The time she spent with my daughter she absolutely adored her and i know that it would be upsetting for her to be cut off from her niece but she doesn’t respect me, she doesn’t respect herself and i just don’t know if i am doing the right thing. I don’t know if anyone will actually read this because it is massive and i apologise for that. I also don’t know if this is the right place to seek advice but i guess i just need some reassurance that i am not being a complete cow for keeping my child away from her aunty. At the end of the day, my child happiness is my number 1 priority but will having nothing to do with her aunty affect that happiness?