Surely, you often hear this line in cheesy/sappy romantic movies. Perhaps someone you broke up with said that too as a last resort to keep you from leaving.
Maybe it was you telling them that. “I’ll never love anyone else like I loved you.”
What had crossed your mind when you said those words? What did you feel? Did you really mean what you said or was there that famous motive behind it?
Most importantly, did you believe that? Would you?
Honestly? I would. Well, even when I refuse to say it out loud and to their face. Why?
It’s nothing romantic, sentimental, nor sappy like what you might think. It’s not even the last pathetic attempt to call off the breakup and beg them to stay.
It’s accepting reality as it is. In other words, we’re all bound to love each person differently in our lives.
Of course, it’s impossible to love two or more people the same way. How do you know? How will you ever do so?
We’re all bound to love people differently. There’s no doubt nor comparison – and there should never be.
Even parents love their kids differently and it’s not always about favouritism like we often easily accuse them of. Maybe your sibling needs them more than you do, so that’s why they take up most of your parents’ time, attention, and energy. Perhaps your parents see just how well you are on your own.
That’s why they let you tend to yourself. Maybe they’re also tired. No wonder, when you expect them to give them same amount of attention to you too, that just doesn’t happen.
You’re allowed to feel that your parents have been spoiling your sibling like crazy and just unfair to you. In reality: who knows? Maybe that’s what they only see: two or more kids with different needs.
It’s the same thing with friends. You can say you have many, but only a selected few you really trust. The list can change or stay the same.
Friendship is dynamic. People grow through time, but – unlike blood-relations – you get to choose whether you want to stay or leave. There’s no moral burden like abandoning your own family, no matter how badly they have mistreated you.
If you can still work out your differences with each other, then perhaps your friendship will stay as strong and long as a happy marriage.
With lovers? It’s obvious. You can love the same person in many ways, but you can’t really do the same way with two different people. You may try, but the results might vary.
Those you have loved and still do have different personalities. They may share some of the similar traits that you love so much, but they’re still not the same. They can’t possibly be the 100% carbon copy to each other.
Different people, different personalities, and different approaches.
Does that mean the quality for each love is different? Does it always have to be that way?