Monday, July 3, 2017
Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
— Dr. Wayne Dyer
It’s generally a struggle to let a child develop a new skill, particularly if it’s not one we share or appreciate. It’s even more difficult to watch a spouse or lover travel a new path of learning or recreation when we’re not invited to share the trip. Yet assuredly, our love is only as deep and real as it is honestly supportive of others spreading their wings to discover their own directions and personal joy.
What is right for us will never be lost or taken, and that which departs, be it friend or lover, is only making way for our own next plane of growth. We must not fear letting our loved ones experience new and separate challenges. Instead, let’s rejoice in the knowledge that we each have a particular calling, a unique destiny that has brought us together and will keep us together for just as long as “the big plan” calls for.
We can’t keep someone’s love for us when we’ve made them prisoners in our homes and hearts.
You are reading from the book:
Worthy of Love by Karen Casey. © 1985 by Hazelden Foundation