MY SON IS EVIL !!!!
Really, he is. I don’t know how to put this but sometimes he does stuff that makes me question his sanity. He’s only a 1st grader…soon actually, he’s starting 1st grade in September, but already at 6 years old he acts like an adult with too much on his mind and alcohol is the only thing that keeps him leveled (metaphorically of course, my son is six so no he doesn’t drink alcohol.)
Last night, after I was done with work, I went to pick him and his sisters at kindergarten and daycare and one of the three ladies who take care of the children pulled me aside into a whisper intervention. She had that look on her face. You know, that look when you have to tell someone something about another person, but you’re afraid that the person who it concerns might hear you and horrible repercussion will follow ? Yeah, that look. She pulled me aside while I was in the middle of helping my daughter Sophie gather her stuff and put her jacket on (Julian was still playing with his friends and had NO intention on going home, after chasing him around for a solid 10 minutes, I gave up on him for a while and focused on the child that actually wanted to go home.)
While I was putting Sophie’s jacket on, I noticed that she had a fairly large Band-Aid around her wrist with medical gauzes. I frowned and wondered what the heck happened to my child, that’s when the daycare lady came up to me and asked me to follow her in a whisper.
After pulling me away from the other parents, she then proceeded to tell me that Julian tortured his sister today. He tied a rubber-band around her wrist so tightly it cut her circulation and it was almost impossible to take it off. The lady at the daycare said that in order to remove it, they had to use an xacto knife in order to cut the rubber band because they couldn’t even get scissors to work. She was crying and her little hands were turning purple. Everyone in the daycare panicked because they couldn’t get it off and Sophie was freaking out, not letting them approach her with the xacto knife to free her (with reasons, I mean, she’s 4 years old and seeing a grown up walk up to you with a knife probably terrified her.) So she was running away, leaving the rubber band around her wrist for an even longer period of time.
They finally managed to calm her down and cut the band off her wrist and that thing was so tight it almost broke skin and bled. She’s still a small fragile little nugget and her skin got so irritated by it, it left a huge mark all around and it was so red, at first they thought that she was bleeding.
None of the ladies knew at the time that it was Julian who purposely put the rubber band on his sister. Then after some interrogation, he came clean. When they asked him why he did it, his response was simply “I just wanted to make her cry.”
There was also another indecent in the same day where Julian tried to “cut” his sister’s hair with his bare hands by pulling on the strands with all his strength.
I think Julian might hate his younger sister for some reason because it’s not the first time he has tried to attack her and inflict pain for the sole purpose of his amusement.
(I’m telling you guys, my son is going to grow up to be a serial killer….I am already mentally preparing myself from when I hear the news when he gets older that he murdered a bunch of women that remind him of the sister that he hates.)
I told him that I was going to tell his dad when we get home and he just shrugged like he didn’t care at all. Sometimes he scares me. Julian isn’t the most affectionate child around. He barely comes to me or his father for hugs and kisses, he’s always in his corner playing by himself and he doesn’t smile very often…only when people get hurt.
I NEED YOUR ADVICE !!!
I told my mother that I was going to take him to a specialist of some sort to make sure that everything was alright in this little head of his, but my mom keeps repeating that taking him to a psychotherapist is only going to make it worse and we should just leave him be until he outgrows it. But my fear is, what if he doesn’t outgrow it and it becomes worse ?
I did take him to see a local therapist when he was four because he was having fun torturing the neighbors’ cat and that terrified me. He’s the one that told me Julian was showing traits of a sociopath. He also reassured me that sociopath doesn’t mean serial killer, it just means that he has the wrong emotional responses to certain situations and his needs and feelings are slightly on the selfish side.
What do I do ? I have this lingering fear that my son is going to turn into a Ted Bundy someday and it is freaking me out. I love my son, he means everything to me but sometimes he scares the living shit out of me. His dad seems to be the only one who he listens too and he works a lot so he is often alone with me and since I have two other children I need to care fore, it’s hard to keep tabs on his mood swings, his change in behavior and what he gets himself into.
I need help !!