Three’s Company

Let me start off by saying that I love my roommate. She’s my best friend and has been for years.

Now, even when you love someone you can grow apart and begin to resent certain things about that person.

For instance, I resent that ever since she started dating, he’ll call him Kyle, our relationship has been tossed by the wayside. Now, I get it, it happens, but it still hurts to know that if Kyle is around, she couldn’t give 2 about me being there or not. She never answers my texts anymore, our work schedules have us barely seeing each other and when we are home at the same time if Kyle isn’t here she’s in her room facetiming him. This is my house too, but I constantly feel in the way when Kyle is here. I feel like I’m interrupting their dates and their time together, I feel uncomfortable and out of place in my own home.

I’m very excited to live on my own in a few months when our lease is up and RM moves closer to Kyle to prepare for their impending nuptials. But until then it would be nice to have a friend around, it would be nice to have someone to talk to when I come home at the end of the day.

But I’ve been replaced. It’s happened before and it will happen again and I’m sure I’ll do the same to someone when I find my own Kyle, but until then it just sucks.

One thought on “Three’s Company”

  1. I don’t know how old you two are (I’m only 24, so pretty young) but there is a certain immaturity in her behavior in allowing other relationships to affect your friendship like this.

    That being said, some people have different friendship styles. I am constantly annoyed with friends who are too clingy, who almost want to treat our friendship like a relationship. I can love someone without being in constant contact. TBH, I feel like this about family too so it’s just a facet of my personality.

    It doesn’t sound like that’s the case for your friend. It sounds like she is swept up in the more exciting relationship (nothing personal against you, but romantic relationships are always more exciting than platonic ones, no?).

    This is on her. It’s not cool for her to just drop you. That being said, this could be a good time for you to learn to be less affected by how fickle other people can be so that when you are in a relationship, you won’t be like her. This can also be beneficial for when a break-up happens. When you invest so much in any one person, you’re SOL when it doesn’t work out.

    If she doesn’t answer your texts, then spend time on others who actually deserve the attention.
    Edit by OP: You are so right! She actually is similar to you in that she doesn’t need to be in constant contact to maintain a strong relationship with someone and I am the opposite. That’s on me and I know that. That said, you are so right about me needing to learn from this and apply these feelings to my future relationships. Thanks for your comment!

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