Am I still your best friend?

I’m a guy and my best friend is female. We have been friends for about 8 years. She was my best woman at my wedding and we have been through quite a lot. Over the last year I have found we have drifted apart quite a bit. Both started new jobs and been hard to find time to see each other.


My  best friend bought her own apartment and asked a couple of months in advance if I could help move etc. I scheduled things around and saved the time so I could help as needed. When she moved in I helped put up blinds in all the rooms. Built flat pack. Ripped up old flooring. Pretty much done anything she asked of me. Hey she’s my best friend I was glad to help. 


A mutual friend made her a mini hamper of essentials and food etc. Also gave a photo frame with key words of her life in the middle. All very nice gifts. My best friend posted a picture of the gifts on Facebook with a message “my best friend is better than yours” I didn’t think much of it. She loved the gifts that’s all that mattered. 


Finally my gifts arrives in the post. I bought her cookie jar and bowl with the design of her favourite tv show. I also bought her favourite biscuits to go in the jar and various other foodie bits (she loves ice cream so various toppings, sauces etc). When I gave it to her she said thank and that she really liked the jar. Perfect. Happy days.


Since then someone else has bought her a cooking book. Again she took a picture and posted on Facebook. I hadn’t really thought much about it but I never got a post about my gifts or to say thanks for my help. When she took a picture of the book it was balancing on the cookie jar I bought! 


I don’t know if I’m reading too much into nothing. If I’m being jealous in some way or even expecting to much. But i put a lot of effort in and it feels like it went unnoticed. 


Im very stubborn and when someone uses me or upsets I don’t normally stick around for them to do it again.


Anyone have any thoughts? 

5 thoughts on “Am I still your best friend?”

  1. I do see where you’re coming from Scotty, if it was me I would feel a bit disheartened by the fact that she made such a big deal out of everyone else’s gifts. But didn’t say anything about yours? But it could be me, joining in on the overthinking.

  2. Thanks for the comment Autumn_Sparrow. I think disheartened sums it up really.

  3. I hope you are okay though, Scotty. I completely understand that feeling.

  4. I don’t have any words of advice on this one. Maybe, she was just overwhelmed by all the gifts and attention? I don’t know. I hate facebook at times. It has a way of making people feel blah. I would talk to her about your feelings I suppose? Probably there is no way of easing into it, without sounding, territorial? I would just blurt it out.

  5. Thanks for everyone’s comments. It’s so nice to have a place to vent things and not receive judgemental comments.

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