I’m feeling a little bad for dogging him about her. It’s not been fair. He’s done nothing do earn my ire or distrust.
I explained how I was feeling. I explained that when she had her hands on him in bothered me, not just because she didn’t respect our relationship, but because her husband is crazy and might hurt my SO. If that happened, I don’t think I’d ever be able to forgive her.
I asked him for a chance to do this better. To be better at this whole thing. It took me six months to hear what he was saying, and I’m hoping that now that I have heard him, he gives me a chance to fix it. It might be too late, but maybe not.
He doesn’t deserve to be dogged the way I’ve dogged him, and he deserves for me to try to approach this the way he needs.